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Closing Cycles

15 Oct

Paolo Coelho is one of my favorite authors. This is something I’ve filed away and came across again. Wise words I think anyone can relate to 🙂

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CLOSING CYCLES
Paolo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have yet to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters…whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the memories of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end?

Have you gone to live abroad? Has a lifelong friendship ended?

You can spend a lifetime wondering why all this happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust just like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved – your parents, spouse, friends, children, siblings – everyone will be finishing chapters, turning new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and in the past at the same time. Not even when we try to understand the things that happened to us. What has passed will not return. We cannot forever be children, adolescents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has no intention of coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important, however painful it may be, to destroy souvenirs, move, give things away, donate old belongings you have.

Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts- and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return. Do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss. That is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off in order to wait for that “ideal moment”.

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that What has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person.

Nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, But simply because that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into what you are.